The easiest way to make a brave decision is to be able to clearly see and understand what purpose it serves and what is at stake.

Finding clarity, understanding the way the decision connects to the things that matter, knowing you have confidence in your decision. That you will be OK, whatever the outcome.

This process allows you to comfortably choose courage, holding space for the discomfort of the uncertainty that comes with it.

Remember, you don’t get to make a brave or courageous decision if the outcome is certain. If the outcome is predictable and certain - it won’t need you to be brave.

The questions start with looking at what the purpose of making a brave decision is? What the costs are, and what is at stake. There will be wins, not just losses, and gains, not just costs, even if you make the decision and don’t get the outcome you desire. Which is of course, the thing you fear.

What you are trying to avoid happening which os the thing you have no control over.

Have you thought about and looked for gains and wins in making the decision and not getting the outcome you are hoping for?

Not simply in terms of thinking about the costs and losses. In the external and material world.

But also thinking about what is at stake in your inner world. Where your courage lies.

What the decisions says about the person are becoming, the things you value and the life you want to lead.

What you gain and win, in the strength of the decision as a person. Outcome and material results are only a part of what it is to be.

Try these. Don’t rush through them. Brave decisions are a process of courage. Don’t be reckless or reactive. Give yourself the time, reflection and space to be confident you’ve answered to yourself, with truthfulness and honesty.

1. What purpose does the question serve?

2. What is it about moving you towards?

3. What are your fears?

4. What are the external threats, losses and gains at stake in NOT making a decision?

5. What are the personal internal threats, losses or gains you perceive in NOT making a decision?

6. What are the personal internal threats, losses or gains you perceive in making this decisions?

7. What can you do to mitigate an undesirable outcome?

8. What needs to be in place to manage the possible impacts?

9. What has past experience of resilience shown you?

10. What will you regret in not making a decision versus what you might regret in making the decision?